time provides opportunities
“They say that time changes things,
but you actually have to change them yourself.” — Andy Warhol
(time provides the opportunities, use them)
“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” — Carol Burnett
“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.” — Alan Cohen
You know the time has come, you can’t go on living the way you have been, you have got to step up and make the changes, it is time to take the bull by the horns, this much is certain.
It is time to change
So you know the time is now but taking action seems to be harder than you imagined, the difference between wanting to do something and actually doing it is actually quite large. All of a sudden you begin to question whether it is worth the effort. Perhaps now as you see the time has come and all that is required to change you begin to think that maybe you should just accept your life the way it is and just get on with it.
This would be a tragedy, a mistake of huge proportions, something which you must not let happen at any cost. It takes tremendous courage to take control of your life, most people never do. Remember it takes real effort and guts to change your life and grab control of your reigns. When you do step up and do what is required to make changes in your life you fall into the minority, as most never do, so once you decide to do something, congratulate yourself.
It can be done
The first step is identifying what it is you want to have, then to start taking action to make it happen.
Become inspired by your own life, it takes great confidence however old you are to take your life in a new direction but it can be done. Be positive and optimistic about what will happen in your future. Be proud of yourself to take the decision to create a new life for yourself. This is going to be a fun and exciting time for you as you go forth and write a new chapter in the play called ‘your life’.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” — Anais Nin
~Paul Alexander Wood in “Your ideal life situation”
[click thru for more info & to peruse his site]
You can pursue the crap out of your dreams. … Get started on being a decisive, confident Someday-buster:
- Start small
- Let yourself be wrong
- Lose the judgment and guilt
Just as you wouldn’t try running marathon after years of little physical activity, you’re not going to tackle big life-changing decisions right away. Start small with decisions like what type of cheese on your sandwich, or what shirt you’ll wear for the day.
Fear of being wrong often causes people to mistrust their decisions. When I worked as a computer-lab support person, whenever I dealt with people who were terrified of breaking the computer, I’d grab their hands and smash them around on the keyboard and they’d learn that it’s actually difficult to make a permanent mistake. Very few decisions are life or death. You are allowed to be wrong on occasion.
Guilt and self-judgment have a huge affect on your ability to make a concrete decision. When you make a decision that takes you away from your dreams instead of moving you towards them, think of it as taking the scenic route and not as a wrong turn. Recognize the problem, change direction and get back on track. Judgment and guilt are just forms of self-punishment and who would ever punish themselves for taking the scenic route on a road trip?
~Alex Fayle in “7 Ways to Make Regret-Free Decisions and Overcome Insecurity”
[be sure to click thru for 4 more ways to start changing your life today]
“Just because everything is different
doesn’t mean anything has changed.”
— Irene Peter —
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