neither good nor bad
“It is absurd to divide people into good or bad.
People are either charming or tedious.” — Oscar Wilde
(we choose which to be & what we see)
“..for there is nothing either good or bad,
but thinking makes it so.” — William Shakespeare
“There are no perfect human beings! Persons can be found who are good, very good indeed, in fact, great. There do in fact exist creators, seers, sages, saints, shakers, and movers…even if they are uncommon and do not come by the dozen. And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, or depressed. To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions about it.”
— Abraham Maslow —
Black and white thinking is when you believe something either has to be one thing or another; good or bad, right or wrong, all or nothing. There are three ways that black and white thinking can hamper our lives, these three things are: thinking in black and white robs us of a great chance for balance in our lives, people are gray — no one is either all good or all bad, and we lose in black and white thinking because we are never going to be everything we want to be. Three ways to get away from black and white thinking are: accepting that you’re not perfect, the next time you feel judgmental stop and ask yourself why, and try and find the gray in one situation today.
~David B. Bohl, intro to “Get Rid of Black and White Thinking Once and for All”
I used to think in extremes: good or bad, black or white, right or wrong.
I’ve always believed that everything in life is a choice, and that anything can be changed, no matter how good, bad, open, limited, difficult or easy the decision and changes are. We are who we are by doing what we do.
Classifying things into “good” and “bad” always provided me with a foundation towards making a decision.
But I’ve learned over time that there’s a lot of grey, and that life just isn’t that simple.
Instead of always focusing on what should be or could be, perhaps the greater opportunity is to recognize boundaries, accept what is and figure out ways to improve, modify or change that.
~Taylor Davidson, “It’s neither good nor bad, it just is.”
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